Being You or Being Accepted
Hahaha. I just had to start this post with some laughter.
Why is it so hard for people to accept you for being you? When I use this phrase, “being you”, I’m referencing the imaginary guidelines for how you should look and how you should act in order to receive acceptance. As you get older you start transitioning into the person you desire to be. Your look changes, your attitude changes, your goals change etc etc. However, the funniest part of this whole thing is, when you are on the right path of self-discovery , people voluntarily give feedback you never asked for. In addition to that, most of the time it’s negative. People are just not comfortable with the idea of breaking themselves away from the “NORM”.
When does that pressure of the social norm or social image disappear?When will people just accept who you truly are and let you be happy with it and move on. For instance, I’m a 26 year-old Jamaican and Haitian woman with naturally tight curled hair ,go figure. But for some reason my hair was straight practically my whole life. Why is that? I mean I received my first perm when I was in 5th grade. Then eventually, 2 years ago I decided to grow out my permed hair to become natural again. 6 months into that transition I then permed it again, due to the influence I had in my life. The fact that someone had enough control over me to influence my original decision makes me so mad at myself. But anyways, long story short, I’m natural again. The only difference now is that I did the big chop this time.I basically said screw it all. Let me just do what I want and be who I want. Whoever remains in my life after this are here because they have good intentions.
It’s unfortunate to even have to think so dramatically about this. The fact that, if I changed something on my body that it may impact how others view me. That’s the sad part. I feel like a lot of people are living their lives through social acceptance. However, how will you ever receive social acceptance if you do not accept your own-self. You have to be strong on your beliefs. You have to be strong on your morals.You also have to realize that people will not understand you completely, but that’s okay. They don’t need to understand you. They don’t need to understand why you are doing what you are doing.
The purpose of this post is to make you re-evaluate who you are trying to impress.Is it yourself or is it for someone else? Because if its for someone else you already know the right answer. If you give into people trying to let you know how to run your own life, you will never ever EVER have control of who YOU truly are.
Wasting My Time
Optimization, an act, process, or methodology of making something (as a design, system, or decision) as fully perfect, functional, or effective as possible; specifically: the mathematical procedures (as finding the maximum of a function) involved in this.(Merriam-Webster).
Why is this action not used daily by people? When I think of optimization I think of saving time. Spending time going back and forth on something is not saving time. As I get older my patience for things are decreasing. I mean my patience for everything has always been minuscule. People waste time more and more every day. Effort and time are wasted on meaningless relationships or tasks. But it’s up to you to know where optimization fits best in your life.
You’ve ever received an email at work, completed the task and then the requester comes back asking for additional information? This is a prime example of non-optimization. The optimization of time was not being used at all by the requester. Not only was their time wasted, but your time was also wasted because they, themselves did not optimize.
Working at a company you start to realize how there are many inefficient jobs. Is this a benefit or an inconvenience? What will happen if those jobs are eliminated? That’s an easy answer, there would be fewer jobs and but more productivity. But is that a bad thing? Why wouldn’t you want that? I imagine myself one day, growing balls and asking the Executive Board of my company or any company this question. Why do we have all these people working here if operation COULD continue without them? 8 hour days per employee, 4 hours of productivity within those 8 hour days. What if you gave the title and job responsibilities that are worth 2 people to 1 person? That’s what I call a well-oiled machine. You come to work, to work for the company not to lounge. Otherwise, if you have to much time on your hands you’ll just sit on the internet blogging on your website. OOOOPPPs, did I just reference myself?
The main point of this blog is not to slander my company or anyone’s idea of a productive day. The main purpose of this blog post is to make people focus on where their energy is going. Is your energy being directed towards all positive things that can help you progress in life? Or is there energy put into places you shouldn’t even waste. This is your life what you decide to do with it is your choice and only your choice. Don’t feel guilty for that. You’re not selfish for not wasting your time on unimportant things or unimportant people.
So today I’m writing about the obvious, or at least it seems obvious to me. Never settle for or rely on just one source of income, make sure you have another source of incoming cash flow.
I’ve always been the type that’s needed consistent work to feel productive or complete. Whether it was joining organizations outside of work or working a second job, being busy is my second name. However, at this point in my life, I’ve decided to put my productive effort towards myself development. Build a name for me. And what better way to do that than to make money while pursuing my goals and dreams.
Everyone’s goals are different in life. Some people want to be CEOs of Fortune 500 companies and others just want to make enough money to retire and buy their own island. There is nothing wrong with both cases, however, I don’t see either of these two options as my life. My main goal and purpose are to just become a better me.
What does a better me entail? I have no clue, but I’m excited to learn. No kids, no husband, and no stress. It is the perfect stage to focus on developing myself for my future. The best part of it all is that I can become a better me because I desire to do it. Whatever you put your mind towards you can conquer it. I’m not saying that if you have kids or a spouse you cannot accomplish your set goals. I’m simply stating that flexibility with time may not be an option. But that shouldn’t stop you from reaching your goals. As someone once told me, ” If you need time, you’ll make time”. So you’ll make time if you need time, right?
With that being said, I’m not only pushing myself to accomplish all my goals and dreams, but I’m also pushing you as well. Be the better you desire to be because we only have one life to live. We have no choice but to live it to the fullest.
Cold Season, Warm Workouts!
My first vacation of the year is approaching soon! I’m super excited because I can finally have time to relax after this busy busy year. With any vacation, looking right in your bikini or dress attire is a must. Therefore, I’ve challenged myself to complete 30 days of 10 minute workouts.
Currently the only things maintaining my weight are my healthy eating habits and hitting the gym here and there. Not to tute my own horn, but I take what I eat very seriously. Sundays are my strict meal prep days for the week, I drink a lot of water and eat only lean protein and low carb meals(Check the “Dining In” section for meal prep ideas!)
I can’t lie though, even I mess up this regimen occasionally. Some days, after a long day at work, I’ll treat myself to Five Guy’s. A double hamburger and fries to be exact. So in order for me to maintain what I’ve worked so hard on, I’ve decided to include daily workout routines. I’m hoping a good 10 minutes every morning will do the trick or at least be a start. Below I’ve listed helpful YouTube links for any eager minds. I will post pics of my progress to help push myself and anyone who is interested. 10 minutes, 30 days, are you up for the challenge?
Keeping It Tight
Enjoy the links and answer the above question with a “challenge accepted”.
So where did I find myself once again?
Yes, you guessed it!
That might be the last place a lot of people choose to food shop, however Whole Foods holds it down for me I can’t lie. I used to only go to Trader Joe’s, but due to convenience I later found out that Whole Foods also has great inexpensive deals. Recently, I gave myself a weekly grocery shopping challenge. Now that I live alone, finding economical deals is a must. In addition to living alone,New York City is one of the top ridiculously expensive cities to live in. So I decided to come up with a weekly $30 or less budget for food shopping. So let’s get straight to the point with what goodies I’ve found.
365 Unsweetened 64 FL Oz Green Tea:$3.49
365 Vanilla 64 Fl Oz Soymilk:$2.99
32 FL Oz Vegetable Stock:$2.49
Navel Oranges:$3.87($1.49 a pound)
Whole Trade Bananas:$2.31($.79 a pound)
Organic Onion Scallion:$1.29
Green Beans:$1.33($1.49 a pound)
Organic Red Delicious Apples:$3.64($1.99)
2 Whole Foods Brown Eggs:$2.99 Each
Total Number of Items:11
I think I’ve done pretty well for this week.
If you read this post, share what you’ve found! Either it’s from Whole Foods or any other local grocery store you find inexpensive with great quality foods.
Thanks for reading.
One hour to use,where should I go?
I decided to go to Whole Foods! I wanted to browse and get some creative thoughts flowing for future recipes. Error number one, never go into Whole Foods without a plan,never browse. I say this only because Whole Foods displays a whole lotta food lol Yea, not quite sure why I thought that punch line would be funny. Anywho, as I was saying, you must have an idea of what you want to purchase from there before going in.However, in this case I did not.
I’m fortunate enough to work next to a WF location, so spontaneous visits are always fun and expensive.So I decided that I would start tracking my weekly finds,to justify if going to Whole Foods was fun enough or just expensive enough.
Below are the sale items I purchased today;
Calab Ricotta Cheese: $4.39
365 Chicken Broth:$2.19
365 Extra Virgin Olive Oil: $21.99
Thank you for tuning in.