Year End Review

Reflection #18

First Quarter has almost come to a close.

I’m still shocked that this year is progressing so quickly. I guess that only means I’m keeping myself busy and not consistently checking the time or date in anticipation of something.

I just received my final review at work today. I’ve reached the 6 month mark quickly and had a great year end discussion with my boss. I was actually surprised at how many good points my boss mentioned. At the time I was only there for 4 months.

But it made me think.

Do we ever give ourselves a Year End Review? On how we performed, what we need to improve on, what challenges we faced and overcame?

If I were to do one, these are the categories I would discuss:

1. Income Performance

2. Budgeting

3. Healing

4. Career Progression

5. Career Consulting Business Analysis

6. Self-Development

7. Personal Projects Implemented 8. Relationships 9. Self-Comfortability 10. Family Perspective*11. Monthly Fun I’ve Incorporated I think that covers the grounds. If not, edit is definitely a tool I can use on this blog lolNow let’s get into the reasons why I chose these categories.1. Income Performance:

As the years progress, I make sure to increase the$$$$e dollars by a significant amount. Not saying money runs everything, but money does provide for the lifestyle I enjoy (Dining Experiences, Housing, Billlllls, Family Gifts, Entertainment, Travel, Personal Projects etc.) My review would make me pay closer attention to my finances. That’s where the next review comes into play.

2. Budgeting:

Every company has a specific budget set forth for the year. Do any of my readers do one for the year? On provides a budget sheet to show a client’s weekly, monthly and year to date income stream. However, what if you had a set amount for specific items. For instance, the ones I’ve listed above. Give some thought into that.

3. Healing:

Shoot, I heal everyday. But what if I actually gave myself a review on what I’ve healed on and what I would like to heal on.

4. Career Progression:

This is pretty straight forward. Since I do it at work. But let’s take the work pressure out of it and actually focus on the what our perfect career would look like.

5. Career Consulting Business Analysis:

My career Consulting business was started in 2011. 2017 we just started obtaining income.

Now that it’s increasingly taking off, I really should incorporate a review on how I’ve been doing. But I probably would like to implement a quarterly analysis.

I was going to write out the rest of the list, then I figured you understand the entire concept.

So think about it. Think how far you’ve come. Think about how much closer your getting to your desired lifestyle. Everyone needs to improve in something.The context of this blog is to get you to think about these things. Give yourself a review and really focus on where you would like to go as well.

I’m out.*Drops Mic 🎤*

Is Consistency Good?

Reflection #17


1. A degree of density, firmness, viscosity, etc.: The liquid has the consistency of cream.

2. Steadfast adherence to the same principles, course, form, etc.: There is consistency in his pattern of behavior.

3. Agreement, harmony, or compatibility, especially correspondence or uniformity among the parts of a complex thing: consistency of colors throughout the house.

4. The condition of cohering or holding together and retaining form; solidity or firmness.

Consistency has become a new goal of mine. A new way of living. A new scheduled habit. A new desired characteristic.

Consistency has the ability to transform your life. Transform your mindset. Transform your elevation.

This past week, I have been enduring a modest version of the Bubonic Plague. Or so I like to call it, the cough that won’t ever leave.

As many of you already know, my content is now on a set schedule. Tuesday, Livestream. Wednesday, Blog Post. Thursday, Podcast Episode. However, what happens when something comes up? What happens if you get ill or hurt? In my case, what happens when your sick?

Do you take a week off? Do you delay production? or do you still provide the content on it’s scheduled date?

I chose to still provide my content, a day late yes, but I still provided it.

We are all involved in personal or professional activities. We all have life commitments. However, when those commitments cross paths with unforeseen situations, why should our commitments be impacted if we may still be able to achieve them?

As years have passed, I’ve learned,  if you allow yourself to disappoint yourself then you may easily accept disappointments from other.

So, are  you okay with letting own self down? Granted things will not always turn out the way you’ve intended. But try. Try to not break the commitment because it does shape how we deal with situations within our lives.

………………..I want you to give some thought to that.

Consistency is a habit everyone should include within their daily lives. Consistency creates structure. Structure is needed in one form or another.

The purpose of this post is to give you that extra perspective and bring this issue to the forefront.

There will be days you are tired, not up for the task or just don’t want to do anything. So I ask you, are your goals important to you? Can your goals wait? Can your goals be delayed? Should your set goals face disappointments?

Optimistic Searchings is meant to open your mind, focus on self-care, heal open wounds and positively elevate your mindset. My posts may not make sense to all, but it will make sense to the person currently facing this situation. That is the purpose.

Thank you for reading, see you next week!





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NYC ValentiMes Day

Reflection #16

NYC Valentine’s Day- Side note: This is an Informal Blog

Also incorrectly pronounced ValentiMes day.


The misconception of what love actually is.


The misconception that love is equivalent to flowers, gifts and dinner for ONE day.


The misconception that the value of your Valentine’s Day equates to the value of your relationship or connection with your partner.


O’ man

This is one of the first times I’ve ever been single on Valentines Day. *Only the blog readers will know this juicy detail*

It’s never bothered me before and sure doesn’t now. I guess because of self-contentment.

Rather then coming straight home today from work, I decided to do something a little different. I decided to do a little walking around in Lower Manhattan to observe the Valentine’s Day poppingness.

My Observations:

  1. Duplicated Balloons
  2. Pricey Dinner Reservations
  3. Heavy and Light Flower Arrangements
  4. Love
  5. All red everything. Red was literally bleeding all over the city today. Red lipsticks, Red coats, Red dresses, Red Scarfs. I never realized how festive people were for just this ONE day.

Observing the above things made me curious. It made me want to look into the background of Valentine’s Day.

What it actually is and why are we celebrating with a bunch of chocolate covered strawberries?

So according to history, Valentine’s Day has no clear story. Below are some VDay Facts

  1. In the late 15th century, it replaced a Roman fertility festival.
  2. The holiday is actually centered around a man name Valentine, who was one of the most highly recognized saints for the Roman Catholic Church.
  3. In the 3rd century he officially became a Roman Catholic Priest.
  4. Emperor Claudius II, I’m assuming another important person, decided that single men made better soldiers so he outlawed marriage for young, unattached men.
  5. Valentine continued to perform marriages but in secret. When his side hustle was discovered, he was then executed. Crazy stuff!

Another story indicates that Valentine might have sent the very 1st valentine greeting card.

  1. Apparently when in prison he fell deeply in love with a girl who would visit often.
  2. Before his death, he apparently sent her a letter signed “from your Valentine,” an expression that has been carried down for years!
  3. So long story short, in 496, Pope Gelasius designated Feb. 14 to honor St. Valentine. The card trend quickly evolved and by the Middle Ages Valentine was one of the most popular saints in Europe. Lovers then started exchanging homemade cards as early as the 15th century, copying verses from books of valentine poems.

Sorry if that seemed all over the place, but you get the point. I hope you learned atleast one thing from the listed above.

So how many of you guys knew A version already ?

It’s important for us to know that today is actually meant to celebrate love. Not the flowers, not the gifts, not the fasade that you are loved or that someone is thinking of you etc etc etc. Today is about celebrating the life Valentine apparently sacrificed by performing underground marriage unions and believing in this drug we call love. O how I love love, but we will leave that for another blog.

As this day comes to an end, I want you all to just reflect. Whether you celebrated alone. Yes, that is a thing. Or celebrated with family. friends or your partner/s. Take time to just appreciate all the free love you receive daily. Although this love holiday is celebrated for exactly 24 hours, everyday be grateful for the love you currently have or have encountered.

Have a great rest of your Vdays!

Mamma is tired.

Night ya’ll

It’s Better to Not Expect, Then to Expect.

Reflection #15

It’s better to not expect, then to expect.

How many times have we set ourselves up freely for disappointments?

How many times have we been set up to disappoint?

It’s a reoccurring phenomenon we are all aware of. An uncontrollable habit or expectation we place.

I tend to have a hard time understanding disappointment. I used to interpret it ALL as intentional. I felt as though people were trying to disappoint me.

However, as the years have gone by I’ve been able to take the “me” out of the equation. I’ve been able to stop putting myself into everything and just observe and realize people have other things going on.

A little background on me. I grew up a little spoiled. Yes, I know, your shocked huh? *sarcasm*

I grew up with a single mother, raising 4 of us.

My two cousins, my sister and lil o’ me in Rochester, NY.

The youngest by 7 Years.

I was the baby and definitely was treated like it. Long story short, disappointment rarely came into my life. Or rarely was acknowledged. I was always able to live and care about my “little o’ world” selfishly. Maybe it was because I realized disappointment at an early stage of my life, but we won’t get into it today. Long story short, I acquired the habit of just choosing to become numb.

Now that I’ve realized disappointment can hit me everyday, there is a new perspective on it rather than ignoring its existence.

For one, Ive been able to grasp the concept of being disappointed. For two, I’ve been able to tie disappointment as an emotion. And for three, the reality that it may have not been intentional started becoming my initial thought.

Those are just the steps I take.

Disappointment is a hard topic to discuss because we are taught to suppress those emotions. We however are also taught to not place expectations. But when the two cross paths, which is the right component?

For me, I believe acknowledging your views on a disappointment, failed expectation, is key. But the way you react to it is actually the primary focus. With my evolution in self-development I’ve been able to learn that disappointment will always be there but sometimes things we desire are not what we need. Sometimes things are meant to just be taken at face value. When you stop placing expectations and just let things evolve the way it needs to naturally, you will realize nothing in life can be controlled.

There are two option: Either it’s meant for you or it’s not. So yes, you may be disappointed. And yes, you had expectations. And no, you’re not wrong for having expectations because it’s gives you a view on your desires. It shows you what you are willing to settle for and what you are not willing to settle for.

So if it’s either a relationship, job opportunity, self achievement , test score, weight goal, completed sale etc. Keep striving for what you desire. Acknowledge that disappointments happen and realize they are meant to be in your life sometimes to shape it. Also, never let disappointments stop your end goal because maybe the route you took just wasn’t the right one. If that’s the case, just get on a new path and continue towards the goal.

So in summary. Life happens but the way you react to it is key.

Disappoinments are meant to show you your desires.

Expectations are also meant to show you your desires.

Modify any failed attempts to help create your desired reality.

But realize, disappointments happen naturally. You cannot control what is meant to happen in your life, however you have a choice if you would like to ACCEPT it in your life.