Being You or Being Accepted

Reflection #5

Being You or Being Accepted

Hahaha. I just had to start this post with some laughter.

Why is it so hard for people to accept you for being you? When I use this phrase, “being you”, I’m referencing the imaginary guidelines for how you should look and how you should act in order to receive acceptance. As you get older you start transitioning into the person you desire to be. Your look changes, your attitude changes, your goals change etc etc. However, the funniest part of this whole thing is, when you are on the right path of self-discovery , people voluntarily give feedback  you never asked for. In addition to that, most of the time it’s negative. People are just not comfortable with the idea of breaking themselves away from the “NORM”.

When does that pressure  of  the social norm or social image disappear?When will people just accept who you truly are and let you be happy with it and move on. For instance, I’m a 26 year-old Jamaican and Haitian woman  with naturally tight curled hair ,go figure. But for some reason my hair was straight practically my whole life. Why is that?  I mean I received my first perm when I was in 5th grade. Then eventually, 2 years ago I decided to grow out my permed hair to become natural again. 6 months into that transition I then permed it again, due to the influence I had in my life. The fact that someone had enough control over me to influence my original decision makes me so mad at myself. But anyways, long story short, I’m natural again. The only difference now is that I did the big chop this time.I basically said screw it all. Let me just do what I want and be who I want. Whoever remains in my life after this are here because they have good intentions.

It’s unfortunate to even have to think so dramatically about this. The fact that, if I changed something on my body that it may impact how others view me. That’s the sad part. I feel like a lot of people are living their lives through social acceptance. However, how will you ever receive social acceptance if you do not accept your own-self. You have to be strong on your beliefs. You have to be strong on your morals.You also have to realize that people will not understand you completely, but that’s okay. They don’t need to understand you. They don’t need to understand why you are doing what you are doing.

The purpose of this post is to make you re-evaluate who you are trying to impress.Is it yourself or is it for someone else? Because if its for someone else you already know the right answer. If you give into people trying to let you know how to run your own life, you will never ever EVER have control of who YOU truly are.

 

 

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